If you can't fly then run, if you can't run then walk,
if you can't walk then crawl, but whatever you do,
you have to keep moving forward.
Martin Luther King Jr.
With every October, comes America’s renewed desire to “face our fears.” We celebrate those bold enough to enter the hunted house, those ready to jump into the Polar Cold ocean, those brave enough to leave the abuser or jump into a new job challenge. But how do they do that? What does it take to face our fears, tackle new challenges, and walk away from the predictable in hopes for a brighter future?
What decades of research shows us there are two possible methods of facing our fears. We can either rip off the bandage or slowly peel it off. Systemically and slowly exposing ourselves to our fears is the most common therapeutic and self-help approach. By planning our step by step mini-exposures, we can train ourselves to regulate our anxiety before we face our true and deepest fear. This slow, paced method is effective. It enables us to learn new coping tools and test our true abilities in a planned and careful manner. Ripping off the bandage requires us to rely on our authentic, healthy self to succeed. It requires us to know our ability to manage challenges as they come; know that we are capable enough and well-supported enough in take on life’s challenges.
If you are considering taking a leap or only dipping your toes in the water, first sit down and write out your goals, your strengths and your supports. With this list in hand, you will stay anchored in the reminder of your strengths, the people you can rely on if the task is too much for you, and the motivator behind your courage.
Hi! I'm Dr. Linda Abdelsayed. These are just some articles I've created on various life topics. Hope you find them helpful! Check me out on the About and Contact tabs above!