If you can't fly then run, if you can't run then walk,
if you can't walk then crawl, but whatever you do,
you have to keep moving forward.
Martin Luther King Jr.
The holiday season is upon us once again! A time of family, memories, and love. It is important to think about how we can best share our love with others, especially during this busy season.
Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell are known for their work in understanding humans’ love languages. They say that humans express and receive love in five different ways. We all have our top three preferences; sometimes how we express love most naturally is different than how we prefer to receive love. The trick to nurturing deep relationships is to know your loved one’s preferential love language so that you can match your expression to their preferred experiences. Likewise, if you know your own preferred love language, you can inform those who love you so they can express their love to you in the best way.
So let’s break this down and study how we can express and receive love with others. Below I have included those five love languages as well as examples of what they look like. I encourage everyone to study them, decide what your preferred love languages are and ask your loved ones about theirs. Once you know their preferences, your actions and words can be best tailored to target their heart!
1. Sacrificial. For this person, actions speak louder than words. The ancient Egyptians had a saying, “Show me your deeds, and I will know your heart” (https://egypt.mrdonn.org/weighingheart.html).
2. Words of Affirmation. Some prefer actions, but this person prefers words. Kind words of encouragement and praise. Expressing declarations of love or sharing vulnerability are ways of sharing love through words.
3. Physical Touch. Expressing love through touch and affection, whether that be snuggling on the couch, random kisses, hugs, massage or even a light arm rub.
4. Gift Giving. Some love to give, while others prefer to receive.
5. Quality Time. You don’t always have to spend time creating elaborate plans for expensive days out - even quiet movie nights on the couch, doing nothing but spending time together is a sure fire way to speak to this heart.
If you are interested in learning more, check out the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell.
Hi! I'm Dr. Linda Abdelsayed. These are just some articles I've created on various life topics. Hope you find them helpful! Check me out on the About and Contact tabs above!